This news came as a great shock to me. Not only was Avner my host when I  was a postdoc at Toronto, but also a good friend.
My first  encounter with Avner was when I was interviewing for a postdoc position  at Toronto. We got along really well, even though our primary research  areas were quite different. After my interview talk came a question from  Avner, trying to relate my work to a concept which I'd vaguely heard  about, but never thought about deeply. It was an idea from "left field" -  perfectly symptomatic of Avner's personality, as I later came to  discover. Later, in Avner's office, he tried to explain his work to me.  He was passionate, he was engaged, he was eloquent, and I understood:  nothing! It was not that he wasn't a good communicator, it was more that  he was a deeply original thinker, and he must have found it hard to  understand why others didn't think the same way. Indeed this phenomenon  kept recurring in later research conversations with him: I was never  quite sure that I understood what he was saying, yet there was always  food for thought...
During that short visit, I already had an inkling of Avner's offbeat  personality, as well as of his warmth. I remember a pleasant evening  spent in his home, with his family and their pet parakeet "Good Boy".  The postdoc position didn't pan out, but Avner invited me for a visit at  some future point of time, and I took up his offer a year and a half  later. That was a fun time. I came to appreciate more what others have  remarked upon: his unique sense of humour. His sense of humour wasn't  merely verbal - it was expressed in tics of personality (the way he  leant back in his chair, the quizzical smile), and in a manner that was  always engaging and yet ironic. The occupant of the office opposite  Avner's, Charlie Rackoff, has a strongly individualistic sense of humour  himself, and they must have had some pretty interesting interactions  over the years.
Subsequent to my visit, I ended up spending a year as a postdoc at  Toronto, during which I got to know Avner even better. Among the things  we had in common: vegetarianism, and a passion for the HBO show "Curb  Your Enthusiasm" (CYE). I was a huge CYE fan, but my passion for the  show paled in comparison to Avner's. He was perennially riffing on the  protagonist Larry David, and my fellow postdoc Iannis Tourlakis and I  used to be invited to Avner's home to watch reruns of the show. One of  the reasons Avner loved the show, I suspect, is that it finds potential  for comedy in the most ordinary everyday situations. Avner was like  that: he abhorred dullness and routine, and was always looking for what  was fresh and interesting about life. Josh mentions in his tribute  Avner's aversion to cliche. The example I remember most vividly is his  crusade against the phrase "as different as apples and oranges", on the  grounds that they were much more similar than different - both round,  both types of fruit etc.
I stayed in touch with Avner after I left Toronto, and got a chance  to meet up with him again December of last year in Kanpur - we were both  there for the FSTTCS conference. I helped him with the details of his  train bookings from Delhi to Kanpur and back, and I found myself sharing  a compartment with him and his son Roy. I'd invited Avner to come and  visit me in Chennai, but Avner being Avner, what he was really looking  forward to about the trip was the Himalayan trek with Roy following the  conference. And Roy seemed just as enthusiastic about the trip, if not  more. It was wonderful watching father and son together, the son clearly  idolising the father.
There was a dinnertime conversation during the conference which will  always remain in my mind for its buoyant, unpredictable quality. At one  point, it emerged that our families both had dogs who had been obtained  at the same time and were of approximately the same age. We joked that  they should get to know each other over Skype. He asked me the name of  our dog; when I told him, he said, "Yeah, I used to know a dog of that  name". Then he thought about it a little bit. "I'm confused, that wasn't  a dog, it was a friend." He pondered some more - turned out it was a  dog after all! By this time I was laughing uncontrollably.
The conversation continued as we made our way back to our rooms - we  discussed our latest comedic discoveries. I recommended "The Sarah  Silverman Show" and "Flight of the Conchords"; Avner talked up a  Canadian radio show called "Wiretap". "Wiretap" - I didn't think I'd  ever heard of that... Avner flared up in mock outrage, he claimed he'd  mentioned it to me in a recent e-mail. And indeed when I returned to my  room, there was a new e-mail from him forwarding the previous one and  saying "Shame on you Rahul for not checking the links I send you!!"
I will listen to Wiretap now, but it won't be funny, it will be  poignant.
Rahul Santhanam
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As one of Roy's teachers, I heard just bits about his trip with his dad. I just wanted to extend my sincerest condolences to Roy and his family. Your loss is great and I wish for you the strength, resolve and calmness that memories will bring.
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